The End of Romantic Relationships in Western Europe

The End of Romantic Relationships in Western Europe

by André Waroch

Since the disappearance of forced/arranged marriages in the 20th century, we have entered, with regard to the love lives of men and women in the West, into what Houellebecq called, in the 90s, the extension of the domain of struggle, that is to say the extension of liberalism to all areas of life, including sex and love relationships, what we will call, more precisely, sexual-affective relationships.

Until the 2010s, we were still in the first version of this liberalism, as described by Houellebecq: the man sought to have a sexual (or sexual-emotional) relationship with one or more women. The woman was responsible for choosing among all her suitors (generally from her immediate circle). We were already in the era of hypergamy: this tendency for women to accept a sexual-emotional relationship only with a very small number of men and to completely reject all the others.

This is a natural tendency that can be observed in its purest expression in animals. In a group of gorillas, a single male fertilizes all the females in the group. The others, unless they dare to confront the dominant male and overpower him, will simply never have sexual relations in their lives.

In peacocks, it's not about the male being the strongest physically, but about being judged by the females as having the most beautiful display. But the principle is the same, as is the result: 70 to 90% of males die without ever having managed to sufficiently attract a female to mate with her.

This hypergamy has an obvious function: to prevent the deterioration of the species by ensuring that only the most viable males can pass on their genes.

But a human society does not function exactly like an animal society. Thus, this hypergamy has been corrected over the centuries in different ways by each civilization. The West has repressed it with the utmost severity: arranged marriages decided by families, the prohibition of adultery and polygamy (the latter being merely the officialization, codification, and logical outcome of hypergamy), and the moral and social condemnation of celibacy.

All of this, as we have said, was shattered in the 20th century. Now women choose freely, but until very recently, they could only choose between men in their immediate circle: friends, school or work colleagues, etc.

In the 2010s, the advent of digital technology caused two revolutions that fed off each other: the triumph of feminism and the triumph of hyper-hypergamy in dating apps.

Feminism convinced women that men were essentially rapists, liars, exploiters, harassers, selfish, idiots, and perverts; that they had oppressed women for tens of thousands of years and that all the bad actions taken against them were simply legitimate revenge. This ideology was illustrated by numerous hashtags: #metoo, #balancetonporc, #allmenaretrash, etc. In this context, it was quite clear that any attempt at flirting in public spaces (streets, bars, nightclubs, schools, workplaces) would henceforth be considered abnormal and deviant behavior. Men were therefore instructed to no longer attempt to approach women anywhere except in places where they paid and which were more or less specifically designated for this purpose: bars, nightclubs, and above all, of course, in the virtual and risk-free environment of dating apps.

While street harassment is now at its peak (the real sociopaths were unaffected by this intimidation campaign, since they weren't the target anyway), ordinary men who hadn't yet given up on any romantic life did exactly what feminist activists (supported by other women) told them to do: they signed up for dating sites. And so hypergamy was unleashed. Instead of having to choose between the hundred or two hundred men in her social circle, the average woman gained access to tens of thousands of men throughout her region. While most men already struggled to find a wife, this difficulty became virtually impossible.

The reason for the recent decline in the use of these apps, acknowledged grudgingly by the System, which is trying its best to conceal the real reason, and to assure everyone that "young people" have left because they now prefer to meet people "in real life" (meaning: spending their money again in nightclubs and bars).

In reality, it wasn't "young people" who fled these apps. It was men, and they fled because women didn't want to sleep with them. And they didn't flee to go back to flirting "in real life" (something they were forbidden to do and are still forbidden to do, which was one of the main reasons they had resigned themselves to doing it on the apps); they simply accepted the definitive rejection from Western women and ceased all attempts at romantic interaction with them.

Strange videos have been circulating lately, mainly on TikTok, of women complaining and "not understanding why" men no longer flirt with them. It's worth remembering that these women have no intention of sleeping with men who might be tempted to approach them again. They're simply seeking the validation that will give them the "self-confidence" necessary to be considered for the "chad"—that is, the ultimate man: muscular, intelligent, handsome, and rich, who no longer needs to "flirt"; he barely has to lift a finger.

This man, the "chad," who represents at most 5% of men, is, in reality, the sole beneficiary of this digital revolution in romantic relationships. The monogamous commitment that women expect from him has never been further from his concerns. He can afford to choose from the unlimited pool of women at his disposal and change partners according to his whims.

Two trends that might seem contradictory at first glance (INSERM study, see source): from 2006 to 2023, the number of sexual encounters women had decreased, even plummeting by 28% (contrary to what all those YouTubers claim when they complain that women have become vile and depraved), while the number of their sexual partners almost doubled. The explanation is simple: women are having much less sex, mainly because they are less and less often in relationships, but they are favoring one-night stands with "chicks" from whom they hope one of them will eventually marry, but who in fact are simply passing them around.

This simultaneous triumph of hypergamy and feminism has, in concrete terms, produced the following result: highly educated urban women, now in their forties, are still languishing, single and childless, in studio apartments reeking of cat urine. As for men, they seem less affected. They have resigned themselves to the impossibility of any sexual or emotional relationship with a Western woman. A minority of them go abroad in search of a wife. For the others, it's a life devoted to work, leisure activities with other men, and an increasingly widespread recourse to prostitution and pornography.

While women also post videos complaining that single life is too financially burdensome, men, on the contrary, seem satisfied that this same single life makes them much more economically independent. The explanation for this apparent contradiction is simple: women choose very low-paying jobs, are reluctant to work long hours, and have an expensive lifestyle; men opt for more lucrative jobs and don't hesitate to work overtime to finance pleasures, carefully calculating the cost so as not to live beyond their means.

To put it another way: women are rediscovering that the couple was a structure that allowed the woman to go shopping with the man's money. And that they themselves, through foolishness and inconsistency, brought an end to their own parasitic existence.